What Exactly Is The “Right” Thing To Do?

From the time I was a little girl, I pretty much took the blows that life throws our way and I tried to learn from them.  That process, as tough as it was, taught me how to understand that we are all wounded warriors.  Everyone has battle scars,...

And STILL, Breonna Taylor.

It’s July 2nd, 2020. And like I was saying, Breonna Taylor. I’m not feeling poetic. And I’m not feeling my normal, cheerful, hopeful and optimistic self.  Is it okay that I’m not okay? I am feeling what so many of us women are feeling right now, specifically what...

8th Recovery Birthday

On July 14, one week from today, I will be celebrating my 8th recovery birthday. On July 14, 2012, I exited the Renfrew Spring Lane Residential Treatment Facility for the last time, luggage in tow but with considerably less unprocessed baggage. Eight years. My...

Don’t Be Afraid To Match

I really believed that the key to my relationship journey was through my “referral only” brand of connection. As previously stated here, I felt that when you referred someone to me to date there was an added level of security and vetting, if you will. Well after two...

In Cases of Races and Races for Cures

I recently had the opportunity to take my 1 ½ year old nephew Dominik to see the monuments in Washington, DC. Dominik is half Puerto Rican, half Ecuadorian. Cutest curly hair, enviable eyelashes and dimples, and the most beautiful, smooth, brown skin. He is the...

Creating A New Normal

As I write this, it’s been 108 days since the quarantine started. That’s roughly three and half months of lost time. Offices have been closed. Birthdays have gone uncelebrated, beyond close family. Schools have gone virtual. In the future when we talk about 2020 it...

Dominican Self-hatred

So, as a Dominican, Afro-Latina, and a woman in this country, I have some things to say.  I am not angry, but I am sad and I am perplexed.  I am the product of two Dominican parents, who were born in the Dominican Republic.  The issue of race in my family has always...

FALLING…UNDER THE INFLUENCE

I’ve added FALLING…because without it, you would immediately think of drinking and this blog is not about alcohol or anything harmful. There are so many other ways we can become influenced! And adding a touch of wisdom always spices up a story. For starters, I...