Raising a Child Without A Dad

“Happy Father’s Day, Janis!” said my next-door neighbor.  I smiled and replied, “Yeah, thanks.”  It was presented as a compliment, but I felt weird being on the receiving end. I was well aware when I first decided to dive into the Single Mom By Choice world that my...

You Need To Calm Down

Remember when we were kids and couldn’t wait to grow up and be adults because it was going to be so amazing? Then we became adults, and we were like, wait, this is what I was waiting for? Kids don’t know how good they got it. No bills. Parents to feed them and do...

“Self-Reflecting on Self-Sabotaging Love”

When it comes to love, many of us fear one thing and one thing only: getting hurt. The fear of getting hurt and having our heart destroyed into a thousand little pieces terrifies us, keeps us up at night, totally haunts us like the ghost of ex-boyfriends past.  Moving...

Purple Rain

“When great souls die, after a period peace blooms, slowly and always irregularly, spaces fill with a kind of soothing electric vibration.Our senses, restored, neverto be the same, whisper to us.They existed. They existed.We can be.Be and be...

I’m Not Okay

***potential trigger warning: eating disorders, low body weight** Oh man has it been a trying couple of months. I know I have spoken at length about my past with anorexia, my struggles with mental health and all the stress I have been under since I started school in...

Uncharted Territory

Each step I take is new There is no glue No footprint No pathway Because my immediate ancestors walked as long And as far As they could I SHOULD Have paid more attention To the lessons being taught Or rather I should have learned That they too were paving their own...

“An Unfortunate E-Mail”

I recently received an email from a fellow parent where the subject line blared, “Your Child’s Concerning Behavior.” YAY! Just what every parent wants to hear. I was elated. The email began kindly enough stating that she is “aware that parents do not always know about...

Self-care isn’t selfish

As I sit here staring at a blank page and feeling slight pressure to write something, anything this month. I realize that yes, it’s true— you can’t pour from an empty cup. I have been spreading myself thin and moving in a lot of different directions in the past month....

IN MEMORIAM

Memorial Day remembrance took a whole new meaning for me this year. There is no more tragic tragedy than losing a serviceman and woman on US ground, outside of combat, unexpectedly, unfairly, and to an unopposed enemy. Not only an unopposed enemy, but one who we as a...

Is It Okay to be Wrong?

Before I get into my blog this month, I want to share that I have incredible men in my life.  It all started with my dad.  Growing up I witnessed him working hard, spending time with his family, always smiling and looking to put a smile on someone else’s...